Learning to Manage Dispute in Relationships

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Managing Dispute

When managing dispute in marriage, couples that are able to understand and manage their emotions and behaviors, as well as understand how their partners respond to dispute, are significantly better equipped to have functional relationships. This is related to a concept known as Emotional Intelligence. The Gottman’s have found that couples that are able to tolerate and manage dispute do well, whereas those that don’t manage dispute well often divorce. The Gottman’s uncovered four behaviors that are exhibited during dispute that either sustain conflict or lead to even greater conflict. Dr. D’Arienzo will discuss each of these behaviors, labeled the Four Horsemen, also known as criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, and contempt. Dr’ D’Arienzo has provided antidotes for each, so let’s take a closer look at the first horseman:


Criticism is the first and frequently most prevalent of the four horsemen. When managing dispute in relationships, it is a natural human behavior for people to seek an explanation for their negative feelings and, over time, people can develop a negative habit of mind. According to John Gottman, “criticism” plays a part in most relationships, but it’s crucial for couples to concentrate on lowering the amount of criticism they give to one another. Criticism can be extremely damaging since it makes the person feel attacked, unloved, and wounded. The pair frequently develops an escalating pattern as a result, in which criticism recurs with increasing regularity and ferocity. Furthermore, most feedback is seen negatively when a relationship becomes tense or severely contested. In actuality, even helpful criticism is seen negatively. According to research, five affirmative statements are required to balance out the negative impact of one critical statement for every one that is made. This makes it challenging when a relationship is already toxic because it is very challenging to have constructive conversations. Try to avoid being too critical as it will help to stop a downward spiral.

Stay tuned to learn about the other three horseman: stonewalling, defensiveness, and contempt.

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